Unlike most things in this world, where some people can benefit it and others can’t, meditation is something that truly everyone can benefit from and use, and I would even argue, needs.
It doesn’t matter what religion you are or what your beliefs
may be, or whether or not you’re spiritual or in to new age elements—anyone can
meditate.
Meditation can be tailored to any person. Whether you’re
simply looking to relieve some stress, trying to connect to your higher self,
or even connect to a higher power, meditation is a great way to help you on
your path to becoming your greatest version.
Meditation forces you to look inward and connect with
yourself. It forces you to face your inner demons, and all those things that
have been pushed deep beneath the surface. It compels you to get to know
yourself—without judgment—and to take a moment in your hectic schedule, in this
busy world, to just breathe.
Meditation has done so much for me since I started it about
a year ago. It has made me a more compassionate, loving, patient, tolerant, and
caring person. It has relieved my stress and depression that used to follow me
like a dark cloud everywhere I went. It also forced me to confront years of
issues that I had pushed deep down into the nefarious ether of my psyche, so
that I could truly heal and get to know myself without hindrance or judgment. It
has made me more happy and easy-going, and changed my entire vibe. Most of all,
it has made me connect—connect to myself, people , nature, the universe, Earth,
and something else I can’t quite put my finger on, and although I can’t see it,
I feel it, and I know it’s there.
I was always one of those people that thought meditation was
some “new-age hippie mumbo jumbo” that hipsters did because they wanted to seem
“deep.” I was a very angry, judgmental person back then, full of fear—fear of
myself, of others, the unknown, things I didn’t understand… Now if I don’t meditate
at least once a week, I find myself slipping into old habits of anger, sadness,
depression, darkness, intolerance, impatience, and most of all, extreme road
rage. (Can I get an “amen!”?)
But it was when I truly allowed my mind to become silent,
that I could finally hear my heart speak; and every meditation I found myself closer
to who I truly wanted to be. Because of this, meditation is what I chose to do
my first blog post on, as I feel everyone can benefit from it, and it has left
such an indelible mark on me and my life, and I know it will do the same for
you. This is going to be Part I in my “Meditation:101” series, which will be full
of different meditation techniques, advice, as well as tips and tricks. Whether
you’re a novice or you’ve been meditating for awhile, there will be a little something
for everyone to take away from this series.
One thing I constantly hear from people is that they’ve “tried
meditation but they couldn’t quiet their mind and kept thinking thoughts.” And
to that I say, what kind of a human are you? Thinking thoughts? What’s the matter
with you! Oh, for shame! But in all seriousness, you are human! So, of course,
you are going to think thoughts! We all do, and it’s perfectly normal. The key
is to allow those thoughts to come into your mind, to acknowledge them without
judgment, and then let them pass. Soon you’ll find that your mind will begin to
still, and your thoughts will float away, and what you will be left with is
beautiful.
The second thing I always hear from people is, “I don’t
really know how to meditate.” Well,
my dear friends, never fear; I’ve got your back. I am going to teach you some
of my favorite meditation techniques and tips, and we’ll have you Ohm-ing your
way to tranquility faster than you can say “Namaste!”
Technique #1: Find
your Ujjayi
Too often in life, we forget to breathe—I mean really breathe—and the funny part is, we aren’t
even conscious of it. If you actually bring your attention to it, you will find
that most of the time you are breathing shallow, rapid breaths with long breaks
of holding your breath in between, especially during times of stress, frustration,
or being so immersed in a task that it consumes you.
Imagine your body is full of stagnant energy, in the form of
pent-up emotions, feelings, and other toxic junk—both physical and
metaphysical. The more you take deep breaths in (fresh air/energy) and exhale
long breaths out, the more you are releasing all of that stagnant energy and
negativity that’s pent up in your body and causing you pain and stress—physically,
mentally, and emotionally. After just a few minutes of using this technique
that I am about to teach you, you will feel renewed and refreshed.
This is a breathing technique that focuses on what’s called
deep, diaphragmatic breathing, which first fills your entire lower belly, then
rises to the lower ribcage, and finally, moves into the upper chest and throat.
You will literally be breathing with your entire body, rather than just one
part of it.
Tip #1: You want to both inhale and exhale through your
nose, keeping the mouth closed at all times. Narrow your throat a bit, so that
when you breathe you can hear it. It should make a sound like the ocean, and
you should feel your breath against your throat. Imagine if you were breathing
through a straw, or breathing against a window and very slowly trying to fog it
up. It’s like that, except with your mouth closed!
Tip #2: Make sure your inhales are about the same length as
your exhales. To start, it helps to count, so that you can have a guide. It
also gives you something to focus on if you’re new to meditation and have a
hard time tuning out your thoughts and mind’s chatter. For example: Inhale for
4 counts, exhale for 4 counts. In your head you can slowly chant: “Inhaling, 2,
3, 4, Exhaling, 2, 3, 4.” This will force you to measure your breaths and be
mindful, which is what meditation is all about. Be mindful of your body and breath,
taking slow, measured breaths rather than just inhaling slow, and then exhaling
it all out in one big rush.
Tip #3: Put your hand on your belly. Pretend it’s a balloon.
Breathe in slowly and deeply to 4 counts, and imagine that the balloon (your
stomach) is slowly filling with air. Once it does and it’s filled to maximum
capacity, allow that breathe to go even further,
filling up your ribcage, and then your upper chest, all the way up to your
throat. Hold it for a second or two, paying attention to how good and unusual
it feels to be breathing with your entire body, filling up your entire diaphragm,
and how full you feel.
Now, your instincts are going to be to immediately exhale
hard and fast, because you’re not used to breathing this way. Resist the urge
to let it all go. Imagine that you have an allowance of air, and you can’t
spend that allowance all at once. It needs to last you. Instead, tighten up
your throat and slowly and measuredly release the breath to the count of 4, feeling
the balloon (your stomach) deflating as you do. Allow the balloon and your
lungs to empty completely before starting the process again. Try this a few
times to get used to how it feels. Get in the groove of it and get used to
breathing with your entire body. Assess the effect it’s having on your body,
mind, and spirit.
Tip #4: When you take big inhales, it is customary for a lot
of people to inhale into their lungs and upper body instead of their belly,
which causes their shoulders to thrust up and chest to thrust out. This is what
we want to avoid. Instead, try to keep your entire body stationary and still,
except for your belly. Your shoulders should not rise, nor should your chest.
Allow only your belly to move.
Once you’ve gotten comfortable enough with the process, you
are ready to begin your meditation. Let’s begin.
1) Find a quiet place where you won’t be
bothered for at least 5-10 minutes. Sit down on the floor cross-legged, or lie
down on your bed/the floor. Keep your back straight, but in a natural posture.
Don’t force your posture up rigidly, which creates an arch in your back. Instead, just imagine yourself straight, tall,
strong, and grounded, like a tree.
2) Close your eyes, and focus on the area
between your eyes on your forehead. This is your third eye, and what you will
connect to during your meditations. During the meditation, you may even see
faint bursts of color in this area, or feel pulsating. To feel grounded, keep
your palms flat on your thighs (or at your sides and flat on the bed if you’re
lying down). To receive energy, keep your palms open and up.
3) Take a few breaths the way you normally
would breathe. Assess your breathing. Do you breathe quick and sporadically, or
long and slow? Are your breaths shallow or deep? Are your inhales longer than
your exhales, or vice versa? This will give you a better idea of what you need to change and
how.
4) Start by taking your first deep diaphragmatic
breath. Make sure your lungs are completely emptied of air, and then inhale
into your belly slowly. Keep in mind you want this inhale to last for 4 counts,
so allot for that. Measure your breath slowly so it lasts. Start by chanting in
your mind, “Inhale, 2, 3, 4. Exhale, 2, 3, 4.” Keep your throat narrow and
slightly tight, as if breathing through a straw, and make the sound of the
ocean against your throat. Keep breathing this way and get settled into this newfound
way of breathing. Breathe deep into your belly, feeling it fill up with air and
protruding with every inhale, and feel it deflate and flatten as you exhale.
5) Keep focusing on your breath. Let it be
your anchor, your focal point, your hold on your concentration. For people that
have a hard time quieting their mind when meditating, this is the perfect way
to get your mind off your daily life and thoughts, and give you something else
to focus on. If thoughts do enter your head, that’s fine! Don’t judge them, don’t
chastise yourself; just allow them to float away and dissipate, and come back
to your breath.
6) Keep doing this for a few minutes, and
soon you will find that you don’t even need to count anymore. Your body will
remember what to do, and quickly adopt this new and improved, healing way of
breathing. Just lose yourself in the sound of your breath, the full feeling of
breathing with your entire body, or the calm sense of tranquility that washes
over you with every exhale.
Once you are done, open your eyes, and take notice of how much different the world looks. You will notice that colors seem brighter, things seem more calm and serene. Assess how you feel, and how it differs from how you felt before the meditation. Do you feel more at peace, more calm, less stressed, less angry? Some people even cry during their first few meditations like this because it taps into things that you have had buried, as if your breath literally reached deep down inside you and pulled it up to the surface. If so, that’s okay too. In fact, that’s great! Allow yourself to cry and feel the huge release that comes with it.
Once you are done, open your eyes, and take notice of how much different the world looks. You will notice that colors seem brighter, things seem more calm and serene. Assess how you feel, and how it differs from how you felt before the meditation. Do you feel more at peace, more calm, less stressed, less angry? Some people even cry during their first few meditations like this because it taps into things that you have had buried, as if your breath literally reached deep down inside you and pulled it up to the surface. If so, that’s okay too. In fact, that’s great! Allow yourself to cry and feel the huge release that comes with it.
Meditation doesn’t always have to be all
about peace, calm, and happiness right away. Sometimes meditation forces us to
face our deepest fears or negative emotions in order to attain a true sense of
peace, calm, and happiness, that can only be attained once we face that which
plagues us. Either way, allow the meditation to give you its gifts, and receive
them without judgment. This is your journey, nobody else’s, and it will affect
you in a unique and special way that is unlike the way it affects anyone else.
Express gratitude to yourself for taking this chance today, and for taking a little
bit of special time out just for yourself, because you deserve it and you’re
worth it. Congratulations. You are now one step farther on your path to
becoming your greatest version.
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